2010 is your best year ever… and it can be your best ever once you decide that this is the year you are going to achieve those goals, make those changes, get things done and be the best possible person you can.
The year goes by very quickly and now is the time to stop putting off your success, take charge of your life and get things done.
So create beliefs that allow you to succeed.
Fill your mind up with positive thoughts.
Focus on your past and present success.
It doesn’t matter if things haven’t worked out in the past.
It doesn’t matter if you haven’t achieved all that you wanted.
You are at a new point in your life and starting today, January 1st 2010 you must decide right here and now to believe in yourself and believe that you can succeed… because the truth is you can do and be anything you want… but only if you believe in yourself.
Start by making a simple commitment to be the best that you can be this year.
· Be the best husband/wife/son/daughter.
· Be the best employee or boss.
· Be the best partner.
· Be the best friend.
· Be the best person a stranger could meet
· Be the best human being you can.
Believe in yourself and you will succeed.
Dismiss the negative thinking and limiting beliefs that say you can’t.
Don’t believe that you’re no good – you’re better than you think.
Fill your mind and subconscious mind with possibilities and positive messages everyday.
5 steps to successful New Year’s resolutions
It’s time for our annual ritual of absolution and control – otherwise known as the New Year’s Resolution. If you’re like most Americans, your resolution will be the same one you made last year. And again this year it’ll last until Valentine’s Day.
But some resolutions work – about 20% make it to the two-year point. To give your resolution the best possible chance, learn from the winners.
Here are five things that successful resolutions have in common.
(1) A Specific, Actionable Plan Brave but vague goals fail. One of the reasons we’re attracted to the notion of New Year’s Resolutions is because we know deep down we get overwhelmed by day-to-day temptations. It’s easier to control our behavior if we have a plan that takes daily decision making out of play. Planning also requires thought, and the more we think about something the greater our emotional investment and consequently our commitment.
(2) Do, Do, Do With the notable exception of exercise, most resolutions involve not doing something. Eating, drinking, smoking, shopping and spending, Internet usage, the list is long. When it comes to maintaining motivation, “not doing” is always harder than “doing.” “Not doing” has been known to result in obsessing and ruminating – the opposite of where you want your mind to be when you’re trying not to indulge.
The key is to replace time spent eating, drinking or dawdling on the Internet with something else. Keeping a log or journal has a strong success rate with habit-breakers partially for that reason. In fact nearly every successful self-help program has activities built in. Whether it’s bowling to replace smoking or a book club to replace the Internet, be sure to fill the time that would have been spent on an unwanted activity with something else.
(3) Shake it Up While you’re reorganizing your life remember that habits are linked to cues. Anyone who has quit smoking knows it helps to avoid the coffee or bar ritual that cues the urge to smoke. Similarly, if you can’t resist a bargain don’t go shopping and if you always overeat at the movies switch to DVDs at home. In other words – shake up your routine and your environment. This is more than avoiding temptation, it’s rewiring brain circuitry.
New Year’s resolutions have a giant advantage – a lot of social support. January and February are the least hedonistic months of the year, and coming after the gluttony of the holidays austerity can seem almost pleasant. For two months society reinforces several of our most popular resolutions. Carpe diem.
(4) Tangible, Visual Cues, Barriers and Rewards Sometimes a few seconds of thought or momentary reminder of the big picture is all we really need to push aside temptation. Put physical barriers and cues in front of tempting situations – tape your credit card balance to your wallet each day or hang a favorite too-small outfit in your kitchen.
Tangible evidence of success is also motivating. Most resolutions have been attempted before and previous failure lurks in the back the mind. It’s part of the allure of starting programs on January 1st – we mentally forgive the failures of the past year and start with a clean slate. Evidence that we’ve been (and therefore will be) successful is essential, especially when we’ve failed in the past. Jan, 39, found simulated fat in 5 pound rubber blobs on the Internet. For every five pounds lost, a new blob is displayed in her bathroom. “It’s exciting to see what I’ve done and I can’t wait to put the next blob out.”
Alcoholics Anonymous chips are prized by those in recovery. Progress graphs, rewards, tokens are other “gold stars” (or fat blobs) encapsulate pride, affirm capabilities and refuel commitment.
(5) Mastery of Mental Sabotage The #1 slayer of resolutions is our mind. Mental games have more to do with unsuccessful resolutions than willpower or self-control. Here are three mental fallacies that spell failure:
Perfectionism – setting unrealistic goals feels virtuous on January 1st but guarantees failure. Flexibility and mini-goals rather than Herculean conquests are the tools of permanent change.
All or Nothing – setbacks should be expected and even planned for. Slip-ups are human but many give up or give in after the first slip, labeling themselves failures.
Blame – when it comes to resolutions it’s all about personal accountability. There are always others and circumstances to blame. Success depends on responsibility. Which is another reason why it’s truly great to have the support of others, but you have to have your own goal.
Beside every single dream, beside every hope and aspiration that you could ever have, almost with tears of old-repentant blood, you’ll penned the following lie:
“I don’t have enough TIME”
Listen, let me be frank and honest with you and cut to the chase right here. Whatever is missing in your life, I can assure you that you are making the painfully inaccurate excuse that you don’t have enough time.
Ibn Umar narrates: one day I was with the Messenger of Allah (Sal Allahu Alayhi wa Sallam). He then turned to me, held my shoulders with both of his blessed hands, and said: “Be in this life like a stranger or a traveler.”
And whenever Ibn Umar narrated this to his students he would add: “If you reach the evening, do not await (to be alive) by dawn, And if you reach dawn, do not await (to be alive) by evening. Take advantage of your Health before you fall sick. And take advantage of your life, before you die.” – Bukhari