بِسًــــــم اللهِ الرّحمَن الرَّحيم Connoisseur.Rarefy.Neologism
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2010: A Blessing Fruity Year of Wonders
2010 is your best year ever… and it can be your best ever once you decide that this is the year you are going to achieve those goals, make those changes, get things done and be the best possible person you can.
The year goes by very quickly and now is the time to stop putting off your success, take charge of your life and get things done.
So create beliefs that allow you to succeed.
Fill your mind up with positive thoughts.
Focus on your past and present success.
It doesn’t matter if things haven’t worked out in the past.
It doesn’t matter if you haven’t achieved all that you wanted.
You are at a new point in your life and starting today, January 1st 2010 you must decide right here and now to believe in yourself and believe that you can succeed… because the truth is you can do and be anything you want… but only if you believe in yourself.
Start by making a simple commitment to be the best that you can be this year.
· Be the best husband/wife/son/daughter.
· Be the best employee or boss.
· Be the best partner.
· Be the best friend.
· Be the best person a stranger could meet
· Be the best human being you can.
Believe in yourself and you will succeed.
Dismiss the negative thinking and limiting beliefs that say you can’t.
Don’t believe that you’re no good – you’re better than you think.
Fill your mind and subconscious mind with possibilities and positive messages everyday.
5 steps to successful New Year’s resolutions
It’s time for our annual ritual of absolution and control – otherwise known as the New Year’s Resolution. If you’re like most Americans, your resolution will be the same one you made last year. And again this year it’ll last until Valentine’s Day.
But some resolutions work – about 20% make it to the two-year point. To give your resolution the best possible chance, learn from the winners.
Here are five things that successful resolutions have in common.
(1) A Specific, Actionable Plan Brave but vague goals fail. One of the reasons we’re attracted to the notion of New Year’s Resolutions is because we know deep down we get overwhelmed by day-to-day temptations. It’s easier to control our behavior if we have a plan that takes daily decision making out of play. Planning also requires thought, and the more we think about something the greater our emotional investment and consequently our commitment.
(2) Do, Do, Do With the notable exception of exercise, most resolutions involve not doing something. Eating, drinking, smoking, shopping and spending, Internet usage, the list is long. When it comes to maintaining motivation, “not doing” is always harder than “doing.” “Not doing” has been known to result in obsessing and ruminating – the opposite of where you want your mind to be when you’re trying not to indulge.
The key is to replace time spent eating, drinking or dawdling on the Internet with something else. Keeping a log or journal has a strong success rate with habit-breakers partially for that reason. In fact nearly every successful self-help program has activities built in. Whether it’s bowling to replace smoking or a book club to replace the Internet, be sure to fill the time that would have been spent on an unwanted activity with something else.
(3) Shake it Up While you’re reorganizing your life remember that habits are linked to cues. Anyone who has quit smoking knows it helps to avoid the coffee or bar ritual that cues the urge to smoke. Similarly, if you can’t resist a bargain don’t go shopping and if you always overeat at the movies switch to DVDs at home. In other words – shake up your routine and your environment. This is more than avoiding temptation, it’s rewiring brain circuitry.
New Year’s resolutions have a giant advantage – a lot of social support. January and February are the least hedonistic months of the year, and coming after the gluttony of the holidays austerity can seem almost pleasant. For two months society reinforces several of our most popular resolutions. Carpe diem.
(4) Tangible, Visual Cues, Barriers and Rewards Sometimes a few seconds of thought or momentary reminder of the big picture is all we really need to push aside temptation. Put physical barriers and cues in front of tempting situations – tape your credit card balance to your wallet each day or hang a favorite too-small outfit in your kitchen.
Tangible evidence of success is also motivating. Most resolutions have been attempted before and previous failure lurks in the back the mind. It’s part of the allure of starting programs on January 1st – we mentally forgive the failures of the past year and start with a clean slate. Evidence that we’ve been (and therefore will be) successful is essential, especially when we’ve failed in the past. Jan, 39, found simulated fat in 5 pound rubber blobs on the Internet. For every five pounds lost, a new blob is displayed in her bathroom. “It’s exciting to see what I’ve done and I can’t wait to put the next blob out.”
Alcoholics Anonymous chips are prized by those in recovery. Progress graphs, rewards, tokens are other “gold stars” (or fat blobs) encapsulate pride, affirm capabilities and refuel commitment.
(5) Mastery of Mental Sabotage The #1 slayer of resolutions is our mind. Mental games have more to do with unsuccessful resolutions than willpower or self-control. Here are three mental fallacies that spell failure:
Perfectionism – setting unrealistic goals feels virtuous on January 1st but guarantees failure. Flexibility and mini-goals rather than Herculean conquests are the tools of permanent change.
All or Nothing – setbacks should be expected and even planned for. Slip-ups are human but many give up or give in after the first slip, labeling themselves failures.
Blame – when it comes to resolutions it’s all about personal accountability. There are always others and circumstances to blame. Success depends on responsibility. Which is another reason why it’s truly great to have the support of others, but you have to have your own goal.
Beside every single dream, beside every hope and aspiration that you could ever have, almost with tears of old-repentant blood, you’ll penned the following lie:
“I don’t have enough TIME”
Listen, let me be frank and honest with you and cut to the chase right here. Whatever is missing in your life, I can assure you that you are making the painfully inaccurate excuse that you don’t have enough time.
Ibn Umar narrates: one day I was with the Messenger of Allah (Sal Allahu Alayhi wa Sallam). He then turned to me, held my shoulders with both of his blessed hands, and said: “Be in this life like a stranger or a traveler.”
And whenever Ibn Umar narrated this to his students he would add: “If you reach the evening, do not await (to be alive) by dawn, And if you reach dawn, do not await (to be alive) by evening. Take advantage of your Health before you fall sick. And take advantage of your life, before you die.” – Bukhari
I want you to know that this year, 2010 you are going to do everything you can to help yourself achieve your goals and live the life you want and deserve, so that you enjoy happiness, success and greater joy in every area of your life with Iman and Taqwa.
What are your waiting for? Affirm them & Have your Daily Deliberate Actions on your wheels!
Best wishes in 2010! 
Marha Marha!
Ponder 6: An X-Ray Vision that Unlocks the Insights of a Person
Andrea McNichol, one of the world’s leading handwriting experts, has now made it possible for you to have the same complete course on handwriting analysis which she has taught to thousands of students at eight University of California campuses. She is also one of the leading forensic graphologists and examiners of questioned documents in the United States, and a highly respected researcher in the field.
The graphologist studies doodles, drawings, sculptures, and paintings in order to gain insight into the physical, mental, and emotional states of the writer or artist. Communicating through written symbols is a uniquely human endeavour. Of the millions of species of life on earth, only Homo sapiens has the ability to paint the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel, build the Great Pyramids and Sphinx in Egypt and design the graceful span of the Golden Gate Bridge. We are also the only species that can use graphic symbols to communicate long after we are dead, through art, books, wills, music, and so on. Although all graphic movement can be analyzed, handwriting is the most accessible for analysis because we teach the subject in our schools and most people can write.
“Handwriting” Without a Hand
Can you produce “handwriting” without a hand? Well, try a little experiment. Put a pen in your mouth, between your teeth. On a piece of scratch paper, sign your name. Did you try to do it? If not, please, do try it before you go on. Now, whose handwriting were you trying to imitate when you tried to sign your name? Mine? Your neighbour’s? Of course not! You were trying to imitate your own handwriting. And if you were really forced to learn to write this way, after enough practice you would eventually produce the same “handwriting” with your mouth that you currently produce with your hand. Studies of thousands of people who have lost the use of their hands and have had to learn to write with the pen in their mouths or between their toes show that they eventually produce their own unique “handwriting,” the same handwriting they had when they could use their hands. The point is, it’s not the hand or mouth or toes that decide which way we’ll slant our writing or how big we’ll write. Those decisions actually come from our brain.So when we produce any graphic movement, such as handwriting, we are actually “brainwriting” and leaving our “brain prints” behind on the paper.
What do our “Brain Prints” reveal?
Our brain prints reveal who we are and how we think, feel, and behave. They are an X-ray of our mind. And, like fingerprints, they remain uniquely our own forever. No two people ever have the exact same brain prints. When we look at your handwriting, nearly everything about your physical, intellectual and emotional states is revealed.
“No one can get out of his own skin. We act as our psychological past, i.e., as our cerebral organization dictates. For this reason, we are bound to expose ourselves in the association experiment in exactly the same way as we do in our own handwriting.”
–C.G. Jung, 1906
Ponder 5: Ever Wonder IF a Person’s Handwriting Tells a Story?
Graphology is the study and analysis of handwriting especially in relation to human psychology. In the medical field, it can be used to refer to the study of handwriting as an aid in diagnosis and tracking of diseases of the brain and nervous system. The term is sometimes incorrectly used to refer to forensic document examination.
Graphology is based upon the following basic assertions:
- When we write, the ego is active but it is not always active to the same degree. Its activity waxes and wanes; being at its highest level when an effort has to be made by the writer and at its lowest level when the motion of the writing organ has gained momentum and is driven by it.
- When the action of writing is comparatively difficult, the writer uses those forms of letters which are simpler or more familiar.
- The muscular movements involved in writing are controlled by the central nervous system. The form of the resultant writing movement is modified further by the flexibly assembled coordinative structures in the hand, arm, and shoulder; which follow the principles of dynamical systems. The specific writing organ (mouth, foot, hand, crook of elbow) is irrelevant if it functions normally and is sufficiently adapted to its function.
- The neurophysiological mechanisms which contribute to the written movement are related to conditions within the central nervous system and vary in accordance with them. The written strokes, therefore, reflect both transitory and long term changes in the central nervous system such as Parkinson’s disease, or alcohol usage.
- The movements and corresponding levels of muscular tension in writing are mostly outside of conscious control and subject to the ideomotor effect. Emotion, mental state, and biomechanical factors such as muscle stiffness and elasticity are reflected in a person’s handwriting.
- One must examine the handwriting or drawing movements by considering them as movements organized by the central nervous system and produced under biomechanical and dynamical constraints. Given these considerations, graphologists proceed to evaluate the pattern, form, movement, rhythm, quality, and consistency of the graphic stroke in terms of psychological interpretations. Such interpretations vary according to the graphological theory applied by the analyst.
- Most schools of thought in graphology concur that a single graphological element can be a component of many different clusters, with each cluster having a different psychological interpretation. The significance of the cluster can be assessed accurately by tracing each component of the cluster back to their origins and adapting the meaning of the latter to the conditions of the milieu in which the form appears.
Your Degree of Slant
The main function of emotional expressiveness is how someone processes their feelings. The main clue or indicating factor is the size of the handwriting and the slant.
Left Slant Handwriting means?
Leftward Slant: 60 to 70% of the strokes will end up at an angle to the left of 90 degrees. People with this trait may have a hard time expressing their feelings and connecting with other people. There is a lack of trust.
Right Slant Handwriting means?
Right Slant: A heart ruled person. They will be impulsive and let their emotions rule their life more so than the emotionally withdrawn person (leftward slant).
What does small handwritings means?
Concentration: Very intense, focused individuals. (Engineers, fighter pilots, scientists) the tiny writing will sometimes confuse the analysis based on the slant. There are traits that will offset other traits and diminish the meaning, even though it is still accurate.
What does this ambivert handwriting means?Ambivert: Middle of the road, not extrovert, not introvert, but ambidextrous. This person relates to both left & right slants. They will be more conservative in a lot of their decisions. Does a handwriting tells a Personality?
Does a handwriting tells a Character?
Wait for more upcoming information on each alphabets written by different individuals that showcases more individuality…
Ponder 4: Ask, Believe & YOU shall Receive
Children or teenagers or even adults, if you ever had a dream, a secret ambition, a passionate desire or goal, but had no idea how to make it real, then The Secret to Teen Power is for you.
Ask, Believe and YOU shall Receive!
Ponder 3: The Secret to YOU!
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The Story Of A Pretty Woman
A man was walking through the marketplace one afternoon when, just as the muathin began the prayer, his eye fell on…a woman’s back.
She was strangely attractive, though dressed in fulsome black, a veil over head and face…and she now turned to him as if somehow conscious of his over-lingering regard…
and gave him a slight but meaningful nod before she rounded the corner into the lane of silk sellers.
Watch to find out what happens next…
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